What if You Are Starved for Affection?

Recently ARMS executive director, Stacey Womack, was interviewed on Flying Free with Natalie Hoffman. They discussed how many women are starved for affection and how that can lead to choosing unhealthy relationships or being accepting of abuse in their lives.

“Probably the most common thing we hear from the women going through the program is that they have learned that they are not alone. Secondly, they now believe that God loves them and values them.” Stacey says. “Because those beliefs change who they are, it changes their behavior. When a woman comes in, she comes in not trusting God, feeling like God has betrayed her, feeling like all the things she believed in suddenly weren’t true.”

Stacey, who has had trauma in her own life, knows how it feels.  “Because of what I had experienced, I felt that God had completely betrayed me in all of that. I think that you can’t really get to this place of true intimacy without this heartache that comes with it because it pushes us into this place of realizing that we have this great need for God that only He can fill. In a practical sense for me and the women that we serve, it’s to begin seeking God. ‘God, I don’t get this.’ Be honest. I don’t think God is afraid of our anger or afraid of our feelings. I feel like He understands all these things. He’s not put off by them. We can tell God how we feel and continue to seek Him.”


2019-09-26T16:56:09+00:00September 26th, 2019|Domestic Violence, Media, Partner Organizations|2 Comments


  1. Lori November 18, 2019 at 2:05 am - Reply

    Being starved for affection and attention can set a woman up in picking another abusive man; especially a covert narcissist or covert sociopath. I’m starved for both a long time but don’t trust myself with anyone. I’ve been in so much inner pain for so long some days I just want to give up. The pain is never ending.

  2. ARMS team November 19, 2019 at 9:04 pm - Reply

    Lori, we are so very sorry for your pain. You are not alone. Would you please give us a call at 503-846-9284 so that we can talk? Thank you.

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