As a single mom, who loves Jesus but came from domestic abuse, seeking to be active within the church was much like what I would imagine being in a desert is like – I was parched and weary.

Most often I felt unwelcomed or like a burden. I was marginalized and oppressed. I felt alone, unseen, and unheard.

I endured judgment and was victim-blamed, especially by other women. The majority simply ignored me. I allowed the pain inside me to justify being angry and my bitterness grew against the church.

I wanted to scream and share the love of Jesus I really knew, while calling those in the pew next to me my enemy.

Deep down, I knew I was fighting a losing battle. I could not share my story in bitterness! No one would listen! It would be ineffective.

Then, I met Julie from ARMS. She shared her story at a church event called Story Night.

  • She gave me hope!
  • She gave me confidence in my faith.
  • She showed me I could use what I have been through to serve others in church ministry.
  • I learned I could come alongside of others, to help them find hope and healing.

No longer bitter, I am living apart from abuse and continue to make progress. I am involved in a very supportive church and am learning to navigate healthy relationships. And I am loved! The difference between even a year ago and now is dramatic and freeing.

Others who were able to serve led me in the direction I’d always wanted to go. Not stuck in abuse. Not clawing my way up out of the mud holes. But instead, it is finally my turn to live abundantly, which Jesus had planned for me all along! I am worthy!