ABUSE RECOVERY RESOURCES
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COUNSELING & ABUSE RECOVERY COACHING
We have list here of people we trust to guide you in your journey. Many offer virtual services and most offer an ARMS discount.
Also check out the free, Her Journey groups for women ages 14+ who wish to learn more about abuse, how to set healthy boundaries and heal from abuse. These groups are both in-person and virtual and available nationwide as well as internationally. Call 503-846-9284 for locations and times.
WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE
- 8 Types of Abuse
- Cycle of Abuse
- Fifteen Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
- Abusive Behavior Checklist
- Deluth Power & Control Wheel
- Elder Abuse
- What is Covert Narcissism?
- PTSD and Abuse
- 50 Reasons Victims Stay or Leave & Return to Abuse
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
- Pregnancy and Domestic Violence Stats by NCADV
CAN AN ABUSER CHANGE?
- 14 Steps of Change for an Abuser
- How Can You Tell If He Has Changed?
- Book: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
RECOMMENDED BOOKS:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORGANIZATIONS:
ARMS maintains a large database of organizations who can help you in your area, depending on your needs. Please call 503-846-9284 for additional information.
- National Domestic Violence Resources
- National DV Hotline 24/7 or call 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
- Family Justice Center (Washington County, OR)
- Family Justice Center/A Safe Place (Clackamas County, OR)
- Family Justice Center/Gateway Center (Multnomah County, OR)
MORE ABUSE SURVIVOR HELP
- Her Journey TEAR-OFF Flyer
- Free Her Journey Program
- Abuse-Trained Counseling & Coaches
- Safety Plan
- How Abuse in Home Affects Children
- What is Grey Rocking and is it Biblical?
- Why Couples Counseling Doesn’t Work
- Other Healing Programs
- How to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse
- What Does God Say?
- 5 Myths About Being a Submissive Wife
- The Real Meaning of Malichi 2:16 – God Hates Divorce
- Co-Parenting With an Abuser (Strategy)
- We Collide: Moving From Abuse to Helping Others (podcast)
- Narcissistic Apocalpse: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships & Setting Boundaries (podcast)
- Christian Abuse Recovery Discussion Group (Facebook)
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
I WANT TO HELP A SURVIVOR
- The Ten Things You Must Know When Helping a Survivor of Abuse
- Book: Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women
- The Church’s Response to Abuse
- Pastor and Community Leader’s Educational Packet
- Guidelines for Working with Victims & Their Partners
- The Dangers of Couples Counseling When Abuse is the Issue
- How Ready is Your Church?
- Book: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis
- 35 Hour Faith-Based Domestic Advocacy Program (virtual)
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
- Mini Course: Helping Clients Learn & Heal from Abuse (virtual)
TOPIC-SPECIFIC ABUSE VIRTUAL CLASSES
The Truth That Set Me Free (Linda’s Story)
I had no idea what a healthy relationship was or what it might look like. I grew up in a very legalistic church, thinking that [...]
The Gift of Change
I saw the defiance on Jason’s face. He was fighting back rage. During his first ManKind class for male perpetrators, I asked him to say [...]
My Journey to Wholeness (Carol’s Story)
My mother tried to kill me and my siblings when I was two years old. It wasn’t the first time either. She locked us in [...]
The Gun That Saved my Life
My abuse to my wife was pretty significant early on. One night while we were out, I felt she wasn’t listening to me and refused [...]
Fractured No More (Stella’s Story)
“My abuser called me 15 times a day. I thought this was endearing.” When I met my abuser, I was pretty messed up. I already [...]
I Don’t Have an Abuse Problem!
ARMS ManKind Group When I first attended the ARMS ManKind group, I didn’t believe that I had a cycle of abuse. In fact, I didn’t [...]
No Holding Back (Stephanie’s Story)
A few years ago in July, I first called 911 because my husband had abused me. But then hung up. “Short-tempered people must pay [...]
Violent Outbursts (Terri’s Story)
The day after my wedding I realized I was in an abusive relationship. We argued about how much it hurt to watch him flirt with [...]
A Lifetime of Abuse: Jen’s Story
Last year, my roommate horribly abused me. I left my home heavily damaged, with spit on my face, a contusion, and bruises on my body. [...]