ABUSE RECOVERY RESOURCES
(IMPORTANT: please note that clicking on the resources listed below may take you to a file or website that will appear in your Internet history, unless you clear your internet history afterwards and power off your computer. If you download a document, they usually download into the temporary files of your computer as a PDF unless you choose another location. If you would like a hard copy instead, please call 503-846-9284)
COUNSELING & ABUSE RECOVERY COACHING
We have list here of people we trust to guide you in your journey. Many offer virtual services and most offer an ARMS discount.
Also check out the free, Her Journey groups for women ages 14+ who wish to learn more about abuse, how to set healthy boundaries and heal from abuse. These groups are both in-person and virtual and available nationwide as well as internationally. Call 503-846-9284 for locations and times.
WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE
- 8 Types of Abuse
- Cycle of Abuse
- Fifteen Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
- Abusive Behavior Checklist
- Deluth Power & Control Wheel
- Elder Abuse
- What is Covert Narcissism?
- PTSD and Abuse
- 50 Reasons Victims Stay or Leave & Return to Abuse
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
- Pregnancy and Domestic Violence Stats by NCADV
CAN AN ABUSER CHANGE?
- 14 Steps of Change for an Abuser
- How Can You Tell If He Has Changed?
- Book: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
RECOMMENDED BOOKS:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORGANIZATIONS:
ARMS maintains a large database of organizations who can help you in your area, depending on your needs. Please call 503-846-9284 for additional information.
- National Domestic Violence Resources
- National DV Hotline 24/7 or call 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
- Family Justice Center (Washington County, OR)
- Family Justice Center/A Safe Place (Clackamas County, OR)
- Family Justice Center/Gateway Center (Multnomah County, OR)
MORE ABUSE SURVIVOR HELP
- Her Journey TEAR-OFF Flyer
- Free Her Journey Program
- Abuse-Trained Counseling & Coaches
- Safety Plan
- How Abuse in Home Affects Children
- What is Grey Rocking and is it Biblical?
- Why Couples Counseling Doesn’t Work
- Other Healing Programs
- How to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse
- What Does God Say?
- 5 Myths About Being a Submissive Wife
- The Real Meaning of Malichi 2:16 – God Hates Divorce
- Co-Parenting With an Abuser (Strategy)
- We Collide: Moving From Abuse to Helping Others (podcast)
- Narcissistic Apocalpse: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships & Setting Boundaries (podcast)
- Christian Abuse Recovery Discussion Group (Facebook)
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
I WANT TO HELP A SURVIVOR
- The Ten Things You Must Know When Helping a Survivor of Abuse
- Book: Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women
- The Church’s Response to Abuse
- Pastor and Community Leader’s Educational Packet
- Guidelines for Working with Victims & Their Partners
- The Dangers of Couples Counseling When Abuse is the Issue
- How Ready is Your Church?
- Book: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis
- 35 Hour Faith-Based Domestic Advocacy Program (virtual)
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
- Mini Course: Helping Clients Learn & Heal from Abuse (virtual)
TOPIC-SPECIFIC ABUSE VIRTUAL CLASSES
I Wanted More – Kristin’s Story (Her Journey Participant)
You don’t know what I had to endure. Let’s be honest, people don’t want to know what lies beneath the surface of fun and laughter. [...]
Tidal Waves of Grief
by E.C. Looking around the coffee shop, she realized how far she had come. She had built a new life where no one knew her [...]
David’s Response to Family Abuse
By M.L. Have you wondered what the Bible says about family abuse? Here’s my perspective about a key Bible character—the one who was a man [...]
Learning How To Accept God’s Love For Me
-by E.C. “For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, [...]
An Abuser is Not a Monster
Perhaps you have read one of the books we use in our leadership training called "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft. If so, [...]
I Don’t Know If You Can Help Me Or Not (Racheal’s Story)
During my first conversation with the admin at the ARMS office, she assured me that this Her Journey program was indeed perfect for me. My [...]
Why Following Your Heart Could Be Breaking It by Megan Castle
by Megan Castle I divorced my abuser and moved to Florida, chasing safety and sunshine. Yet soon I discovered something almost as disempowering as my [...]
Other Healing Programs
Occasionally, we are asked for additional healing resources, in particular from people who are survivors of abuse. Although we know that Her Journey, Virtue and [...]
The Fear of Change After Abuse
“What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.” Psalm 56:3 KJV Any kind of change is hard and scary. It doesn’t matter how [...]