ABUSE RECOVERY RESOURCES
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COUNSELING & ABUSE RECOVERY COACHING
We have list here of people we trust to guide you in your journey. Many offer virtual services and most offer an ARMS discount.
Also check out the free, Her Journey groups for women ages 14+ who wish to learn more about abuse, how to set healthy boundaries and heal from abuse. These groups are both in-person and virtual and available nationwide as well as internationally. Call 503-846-9284 for locations and times.
WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE
- 8 Types of Abuse
- Cycle of Abuse
- Fifteen Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
- Abusive Behavior Checklist
- Deluth Power & Control Wheel
- Elder Abuse
- What is Covert Narcissism?
- PTSD and Abuse
- 50 Reasons Victims Stay or Leave & Return to Abuse
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
- Pregnancy and Domestic Violence Stats by NCADV
CAN AN ABUSER CHANGE?
- 14 Steps of Change for an Abuser
- How Can You Tell If He Has Changed?
- Book: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
RECOMMENDED BOOKS:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORGANIZATIONS:
ARMS maintains a large database of organizations who can help you in your area, depending on your needs. Please call 503-846-9284 for additional information.
- National Domestic Violence Resources
- National DV Hotline 24/7 or call 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
- Family Justice Center (Washington County, OR)
- Family Justice Center/A Safe Place (Clackamas County, OR)
- Family Justice Center/Gateway Center (Multnomah County, OR)
MORE ABUSE SURVIVOR HELP
- Her Journey TEAR-OFF Flyer
- Free Her Journey Program
- Abuse-Trained Counseling & Coaches
- Safety Plan
- How Abuse in Home Affects Children
- What is Grey Rocking and is it Biblical?
- Why Couples Counseling Doesn’t Work
- Other Healing Programs
- How to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse
- What Does God Say?
- 5 Myths About Being a Submissive Wife
- The Real Meaning of Malichi 2:16 – God Hates Divorce
- Co-Parenting With an Abuser (Strategy)
- We Collide: Moving From Abuse to Helping Others (podcast)
- Narcissistic Apocalpse: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships & Setting Boundaries (podcast)
- Christian Abuse Recovery Discussion Group (Facebook)
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
I WANT TO HELP A SURVIVOR
- The Ten Things You Must Know When Helping a Survivor of Abuse
- Book: Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women
- The Church’s Response to Abuse
- Pastor and Community Leader’s Educational Packet
- Guidelines for Working with Victims & Their Partners
- The Dangers of Couples Counseling When Abuse is the Issue
- How Ready is Your Church?
- Book: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis
- 35 Hour Faith-Based Domestic Advocacy Program (virtual)
- Mini Course: Abuse Awareness & Healing (virtual)
- Mini Course: Helping Clients Learn & Heal from Abuse (virtual)
TOPIC-SPECIFIC ABUSE VIRTUAL CLASSES
Court Ordered for Virtue (T’s Story)
At the age of 12 my parents divorced, and that started my journey into dysfunction. I was an unruly teenager, who no one could control. [...]
A Surreal Experience (Jackie’s Story)
I was arrested for assaulting my ex-boyfriend. We had been broken up for about three months, but the relationship was toxic and abusive. My relationship [...]
Searching My Heart (Michael’s Story)
If you were to ask me several years ago, “Michael, are you abusive to your wife and kids”? I would have looked at you as [...]
Her Journey—A Husband’s Perspective
My wife and I have been married for over 25 years now, but for the first 20 years or so, I felt like she wasn’t [...]
Building a Wall
I grew up in a home where verbal and physical abuse were present almost daily. I can remember seeing my mom being beaten in front [...]
Parental Sarcasm & The Relationship with my Son
There are times when people need help. That was me in 2003. Under court order, I came to the ManKind program where I learned some [...]
Pivotal Moments- I Can Help!
“I always thought the abuse was my fault. After attending the Her Journey class I now realize it’s never my fault if some one chooses [...]
Once an Enemy, Now an Ally
I was abusive and controlling for my entire life. Friends, family members, past girlfriends and worst of all, my wife, have all been targets. Like [...]